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The At-Home Facial To Prep Skin For Every Christmas Occasion

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When an invite drops into your inbox, the immediate consideration is usually what you’re going to wear. But what is a lamé/velvet/embellished dress without a similarly silken face? If you haven't the time or money to see a facialist regularly (recommended every 4-6 weeks, FYI), the secret is to do it yourself and emulate the professionals from the comfort of your own home.

Caveat: You can’t get the lasers, the tools and the potency of active ingredients at home as they aren’t available to consumers, but with science-led, well-formulated products, you can give yourself a more-than-effective pre-makeup facial in less than an hour. The more often you do them, the better – it takes consistency to get skin in peak condition – and you should always take all skincare down to your décolletage. Detail is everything.

Try this facial the day before an event to allow your face time to calm down afterwards, then pep skin up with a sheet mask on the day. Soirée skin sorted.

Step one

It probably comes as no surprise that you’ve got to start by cleansing. “It’s extra important to double cleanse, especially if you live in a heavily polluted area and/or wear makeup regularly,” says skincare specialist Debbie Thomas, whose in-clinic DNA facials are second to none for achieving perfect skin. A double cleanse – the first cleanse to remove makeup and surface grime and the second using a targeted cleanser (ie. for congested or dry skins) for a deeper clean – will take skin into clean canvas territory, ready for the next part of the facial.

Look for oil-based cleansers for your first cleanse as they’re the most effective at dissolving every little bit of grime or makeup sitting on the face; if you’re feeling flush, try La Mer’s Cleansing Oil, £70, which is one of the best for a quick cleanse without disrupting the skin’s chemistry. Alternatively try de Mamiel’s wonderful Restorative Cleansing Balm, £39, an organic, nourishing balm that contains manuka honey to fend off bacteria, or Eve Lom’s new Gel Balm Cleanser, £45, which is a lighter, less buttery option than their original cult classic.

As for the treatment cleanser: “What you really want is to find one that does more than just remove the day,” says Thomas. “I like those that contain renewing acids, like glycolic or salicylic, because they help increase cellular renewal.” The more skin cells can renew themselves, the healthier and more radiant skin will look and feel. Some great options are Mario Badescu’s Enzyme Cleansing Gel, £13, Anthony’s Glycolic Facial Cleanser, £19.50, and MZ Skin’s Cleanse and Clarify Dual Action AHA Cleanser and Mask, £56.

“Massage the formula into skin for at least a minute,” says Thomas. With medium pressure, use your middle and ring fingers to move cleanser in upward, circular motions over the skin – it will help get the blood flow going. “Finish by rinsing with warm water or a muslin face cloth and then pat skin dry with a tissue,” she recommends.

Step two

This is where you slough off dead skin cells, tighten and clean out pores, smooth out fine lines and basically make skin as ready as it can be to absorb ingredients in the serums and masks that follow. You’ve got two choices: a physical exfoliant – ie. a grainy scrub – or a chemical exfoliant, like the renewing acids we mentioned before.

Dr Lancer, top dermatologist and the man responsible for many red carpet glows – Victoria Beckham and Beyoncé included – has created one of the best scrubs for pre-event skin. The Method: Polish, £60, contains both chemical and physical exfoliants, with pumpkin and pomegranate enzymes alongside quartz and sodium bicarbonate crystals. The result is extremely smooth and perky skin. Alternatively try Origins Never A Dull Moment Skin-Brightening Face Polisher, £26.50, or Aesop’s Purifying Facial Exfoliant, £35. Thomas’ advice when using a grainy formula? “Don’t go too mad scrubbing your face; the aim is only to try and dislodge loose dead skin.” You’ve been warned.

Chemical exfoliants can be a lot gentler and are, on the whole, easier to use. If your skin is more acne-prone or becomes inflamed easily, these are a good choice for you. The best are Zelens PHA+ Bio-Peel Resurfacing Facial Pads, £65, as they’re made with a whole host of acids, including salicylic, that are gentle enough to use every day and help take down angry spots. Paula’s Choice Skin Perfecting 2% BHA Liquid Exfoliant, £25 is the go-to for troublesome skin – every beauty editor swears by it – and Vichy’s Idealia Peeling, £20, is perfect for even the most sensitive of skins, thanks to the soothing mineral water it contains.

Step three

Before you start attacking your face – which, let’s be honest, is inevitable despite any advice you might read here – there are some simple rules to follow to avoid making the situation 10 times worse. Thomas points out that seeing a facialist is the only way to deal with any breakouts in a safe way: “Doing them yourself can make spots much worse,” she says. That said, they are (one of) the keys to clear skin, particularly if you’re oily.

To make it easier and, most importantly, less painful, try steaming pre-extraction. “Steam helps to soften up the plug of hardened sebum which causes blackheads,” advises Thomas. All you need to do is add boiling water to a large pot and then lean your face over it – a non-burnable distance away – with a towel over your head. Three minutes should do.

After, wrap a tissue around each forefinger, ensuring you cover your fingernails, and gently apply pressure to blackheads. Avoid extracting anything other than a blackhead because it will make skin much worse, particularly pre-party. And if your blackhead refuses to budge? Leave it be.

Step four

Here’s the relaxing bit and a chance to really get skin in the mood for whatever event you throw at it. Because this is a serious at-home facial, no prisoners will be taken with the number of masks deployed; pick and choose as you see fit but know that this is the opportunity to really feed the skin whatever it needs.

Post-extraction and steam, when pores are open to the world, it’s always a good idea to use a clay mask to lift out impurities and detoxify the skin. Three good ones are Kiehl’s Rare Earth Deep Pore Cleansing Masque, £23.50, Chantecaille’s Detox Clay Mask £73, and Dr Dennis Gross’ Clarifying Colloidal Sulfur Mask, £34. Apply generously, let it set – though don’t let it get to the crumbling phase – and then use a muslin cloth to remove every last morsel.

“Now you need to get the radiance and hydration back into your skin,” says Thomas, who recommends using a thick, creamy mask. They don’t get much more thick and creamy than Sisley’s Black Rose Mask, £99, a beloved staple in every beauty fiend’s cabinet thanks to the black rose and magnolia essential oil combo, which leaves skin fuller, softer, fresher and 10 times better than before. It’s expensive though, so for a cheaper alternative, try Avene’s Soothing Moisture Mask, £11.50, or Bioderma’s Hydrabio Mask, £15; you really can’t beat a French pharmacy classic.

Instead of just leaving it on for 20 minutes and wiping off, this is the perfect time to give yourself a vigorous, skin-lifting face massage, says Thomas: “Use the heels of your hands to carry out firm upward and outward movements,” she says. Then it’s on to the pinch. Start in the centre of the face and move outwards, pinching the skin using enough pressure to encourage a pinkness to the face; try keeping it up for 5-10 minutes and you’ve got yourself increased blood flow (a.k.a. radiance) and more sculpted cheekbones.

To stimulate the face’s circulation further, which will get skin even more radiant, Thomas has a trick: “Rub an ice cube all over your face and keep it in constant motion,” she says, or do as Kate Moss does and dunk your head into a basin of icy water. It’ll get cheeks glowing, minimise any inflammation or redness and, of course, tighten up pores.

The day of the event, 30 minutes before applying makeup, a good sheet mask will get skin ready to go. Who to call on other than the king of pre-event skincare and treatments, Dr Colbert? The man responsible for getting the Victoria’s Secret Angels ready for the show has a great skincare line, which includes the Illumino Anti-Aging Brightening Face Mask, £85 for five. It bumps up skin’s brightness by at least 10 points in just 15 minutes. If your skin gets flushed easily during the build-up to the big event, try popping Erno Laszlo’s Soothe & Calm Hydrogel Mask in the fridge – the serum it's infused with contains honeysuckle extract, which helps calm skin while evening out skin tone.

Step five

Next up it’s serum time. Serums essentially deliver a higher concentration of active ingredients to skin, so have the power to really change and boost how the skin looks.

Pre-party, your main aim is to get skin as bright, even, plump and lifted as possible, so serums that help achieve that are advisable. “Hydration is one of the simplest ways to plump up skin,” says Thomas. And for that you need hyaluronic acid.

Hyaluronic acid is a molecule that can hold up to 1,000 times its own weight in water. It already exists naturally in the skin but applying a good hyaluronic acid serum daily helps it hold even more water, leading to plumper and more even skin. We love Dr Barbara Sturm’s Hyaluronic Serum, £230, Dr Dennis Gross’ Clinical Concentrate Hydration Booster, £59, and Omorovicza’s Instant Perfection Serum, £80.

A popular professional treatment at the moment is microneedling, which isn’t nearly as scary as it sounds. It involves rolling a tool, which has a head covered in tiny needles, over the face to create tiny punctures in skin that propel it to repair itself – cue collagen production (plumping) and better skin texture. After the microneedling, a relevant serum is applied (for different skin concern or skin type) and because of the punctures, is absorbed straight away.

There are at-home devices you can use, too, although we don’t recommend these on the day of an event. The only difference between the at-home devices and in-clinic is the needle length (in-clinic have much longer needles, from 0.5 to 3mm), so at-home devices are fine to use the day before. GloPro’s MicroStimulation Facial Tool, £199, is really easy to use and totally pain-free, and will take your at-home facial to the next level.

Step six

When you’ve layered mask upon mask, serum, toner and so on, there really isn’t much need for more moisture – you’ve probably already hydrated enough. The main point of moisturising to finish your DIY treatment is to seal it all in.

You can use an oil or a cream. An oil will penetrate deeper into the skin, help regulate the amount of oil your skin produces and ensure you wake up with a glow (provided you use the right one); a moisturiser, on the other hand, is probably a better base for makeup or for daytime and is best for those who simply don’t like the feel of an oil on skin. Avene’s A Oxitive Water Cream, £24, is packed full of skin-defending antioxidants and By Terry’s Hydra-Eclat Daily Care, £68, is anti-pollution thanks to the dipeptide it contains. A good oil all-rounder is Rodin’s Lavender Absolute Luxury Face Oil, £105, which smells like heaven, or Votary’s Neroli and Myrrh Facial Oil, £65.

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What You Need To Know Before Buying Your First Designer Piece

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If you're fortunate enough to have purchased a piece of luxury fashion, you'll know that it's far from a straightforward buy. When spending a significant amount of money on anything, whether it's a car, a house (unlikely) or a pair of shoes, careful consideration needs to be taken.

Maybe you've lusted after a classic quilted Chanel handbag for some time, or perhaps you're more interested in snapping up Balenciaga's ubiquitous stretch-knit sneakers. Is a timeless piece a better investment, or should you go with your gut on a trend-led item you've fallen for?

"I am always in favour of a fashion purchase, mainly because if you truly love it then it counts as a timeless piece in my eyes," Lisa Aiken, retail fashion director at Net-A-Porter explains. "Some of the most treasured items in my wardrobe would have been considered ‘trend-led’ when I bought them, however it was less about the trend and more about falling in love with it."

Stylist Victoria Bain, on the other hand, has collated a selection of classic, well-made staples. "My wardrobe is built around good-quality classic items which I modernise each season with accessories and pieces from the high street," she tells Refinery29. "I like to invest in items I will wear over and over again, such as a beautiful navy coat from Stella McCartney, a white shirt from Céline, a tailored suit from Pallas, an Hermès belt or a great piece of jewellery from Ana Khouri."

"My advice is to buy whatever makes your heart skip a beat," Natalie Kingham, buying director at MatchesFashion.com says. Kingham's first piece? "It was a beautiful silk Katharine Hamnett dress, and was bought for me by my father for a wedding that we were attending. I cherished that dress for many years and have such fond memories of it."

With trends moving so quickly in today's fashionscape, is there anything that dates badly? "I would avoid heavily printed items or a key fabric trend of the season (such as this year's lurex or PVC) as they are immediately dateable," Bain advises. Aiken believes it's all about how often a certain style crops up on the catwalk: "Generally speaking, anything with a nostalgic reference will always return. For example, if it is a piece that has been revisited regularly since the '70s, then it is very likely to have longevity."

Whatever the longevity of the piece you choose to purchase, don't just save it for special occasions for fear you'll ruin it. "Your investment or smart-buy pieces should be worn on all occasions and adopted into your everyday wardrobe," says Kingham. "Clothes are made to be worn, so I try not to fret too much," Bain agrees.

While you shouldn't only roll out your hero pieces once in a blue moon, it is however vital that you take good care of them so they last. "No matter how much you love a piece, it is going to go in and out of your wardrobe depending on season and your mood," says Aiken, "so the single most important thing is how you store it." Her top tip? "I dry clean and then keep items in vacuum-sealed bags, which I personally think work better than tissue paper and garment bags as they’re moth-proof."

Bain keeps her handbags and shoes in their original dust bags, while her coats and dresses are stored in plastic hanging bags, and knits in plastic boxes. "My boyfriend did once comment that my wardrobe had Patrick Bateman vibes, but after the Moth Battle of 2015 I am not taking any chances. I also use spray starch on my shirts and find it keeps them looking newer for longer."

Is there anything these women wish they'd known first time around? "I would steer clear of evening shoes," Bain admits. "I bought a stunning pair of Prada heels to wear to a wedding once, but spent the day fretting about grass, dodging red wine and unwieldy dance partners. Life is too short to be the boring person at the party, so I stick to Topshop now."

Aiken highlights the importance of wearability when purchasing your first piece, too. "Accessories, such as a handbag, are definitely worth the investment as they tend to have the lowest ‘price-per-wear’ value. Other than that, enjoy the search and the shopping experience (personally I love unwrapping Net-A-Porter purchases – it always feels like a gift to myself)."

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These Cocktails Will Instantly Upgrade Your Party

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There are many elements involved in throwing a decent party. It's sort of like climbing Everest – it takes boldness, wit, the right mix of people, and, well, a little alcohol to see you through. It's certainly not something to embark on lightly because who wants to throw a rubbish party? A golden invitation can turn to rust all too easily, and once you've thrown one bad event you join the sorry ranks of those from whom an envelope in the post has all the attraction of the Tube at rush hour.

We've all attended zillions of parties throughout our lives, from birthdays to New Year's Eve via that shindig for your girlfriend who just split up with her awful boyfriend. Think back to the best – the ones where you had the most fun, that really stick in your mind – and I suspect you'll find the thread running through all of them is that they were luxe but not too serious; an upgrade on your day-to-day. You left feeling enriched as opposed to, you know, bored to tears. And besides the guest list – equal boys to girls; some people who know each other but lots who don’t – one of the most important ice-breakers and party-starters is the drinks you serve. Get that right and you're halfway up the mountain.

Cocktails are king in this department, and the key is to use the right ingredients – your fruit must be fresh, your ice plentiful and your spirits the finest you can get your hands on. So as the party season draws near, there is one spirit to have in your drinks cabinet: CÎROC French Vanilla, a premium vodka with real vanilla flavour. To help you on your way to the party hall of fame, we've pulled together three of the best party cocktails using CÎROC French Vanilla. True, they require a bit of an effort to make but the results are unforgettable. These drinks are guaranteed to take your party to the next level.

CÎROC Star Martini
2.85 units of alcohol per serve

The CÎROC Star Martini is a high-energy upgrade on the modern classic Pornstar Martini. If an A-lister turned up at quarter to midnight you’d hand her this and relinquish control of your Spotify playlist. Aside from its pleasingly tropical appearance – a boon in freezing November – the peach is a good counterpoint to the tartness of the passionfruit, which brings out the vanilla in the vodka. A real drink to impress.

ILLUSTRATED BY KIKI LJUNG.

You will need
Boston cocktail shaker
Large martini glass
Shot glass
Cubed ice

Ingredients
35ml CÎROC French Vanilla
15ml passionfruit syrup
10ml rhubarb aperitif
25ml white peach puree
5ml lemon juice
50ml champagne (on the side)
Half a passionfruit for garnish

Instructions

1. All ingredients except for the champagne are added to a Boston cocktail shaker with ice.

2. Shake and fine strain into a large martini glass.

3. Pour the champagne into a shot glass and serve alongside.

CÎROC Naughty & Nice
2.26 units of alcohol per

The CÎROC Naughty & Nice is that friend who makes a party – witty, clever, sweet, ever so slightly naughty and likely the last person to leave your house. Probably at about 3am. Possibly on their way to the next party and yet, somehow, never drunk. We can’t get enough of her and we can’t get enough of this ebullient mix of ginger and honey either, a classic combo which successfully draws out the full flavour profile of this premium vodka. Serve this to your guests as they arrive; there's no better way to start a party.

ILLUSTRATED BY KIKI LJUNG.

You will need
Balloon wine glass
Cubed ice

Ingredients
35ml CÎROC French Vanilla
20ml pink grapefruit juice
10ml honey
15ml ginger cordial
50ml French dessert wine
50ml sparkling water
Grapes, clove-studded long orange zest, star anise and local aromatic herbs for garnish

Instructions

1. Pour all of the ingredients directly into the glass over lots of ice.

2. Stir until mixed well and chilled.

3. Garnish with as much colour as possible!

CÎROC St Tropez Punch
For sharing – serves 8. 2.5 units of alcohol per serve.

It's 10pm, the party is in full swing, everyone's having fun and you're starting to relax. This is going well. Now it's time to kick back and enjoy yourself, which means you don’t want to be playing bartender, so instead mix up a batch of CÎROC St Tropez Punch and let the guests help themselves. This is light, zesty and the champagne lengthens it pleasingly.

ILLUSTRATED BY KIKI LJUNG.

You will need
Punch bowl and ladle
Cubed ice

Ingredients
350ml CÎROC French Vanilla
150ml passionfruit syrup
150g sugar
200ml lime juice
500ml champagne
Dried apricots and mint sprigs for garnish

Instructions

1. Add all the ingredients directly to the punch bowl.

2. Fill to the top with cubed ice and stir.

3. Once ingredients are well mixed, add more ice and top the drink with garnish.

4. Ladle the drink into individual glasses.

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The Best Photos From Around The World This Week

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It’s never been easier to keep up with what’s going on in the world. The news is everywhere – in our Facebook feeds, on the morning commute, during that lazy half hour before you switch off the TV and go to bed. But the tide of global affairs is often more upsetting than uplifting and it can be tempting to bury our heads in the sand. As the saying goes: a picture is worth a thousand words, so to offer a different perspective we've rounded up some of the most memorable images of the week's events, captured by the best photojournalists on the planet.

Captive-bred pair, the male panda Ba Xi and the female panda Ying Xue, walk into the forest out of the cage after being released into the wild at Liziping Nature Reserve on 23rd November 2017 in Ya'an, Sichuan Province of China. They are the second pair released into the wild in the world.

Photo: VCG/VCG via Getty Images.

London Baker, 8, helps serve Thanksgiving dinner for more than 5,000 District of Columbia residents during The Salvation Army and Safeway's 18th annual 'Feast of Sharing' at the Walter E. Washington Convention Centre on 22nd November 2017 in Washington, DC. Partners also provided free haircuts, manicures, clothing and hosted a resource expo for the needy during the event.

Photo: Chip Somodevilla/Getty Images

A Rohingya refugee boy flies a kite at Balukhali refugee camp in the Bangladeshi district of Ukhia on 22nd November 2017. An estimated 618,000 Muslim Rohingya have fled mainly Buddhist Myanmar since a military crackdown in Rakhine in August triggered an exodus, straining resources in the impoverished country.

Photo: MUNIR UZ ZAMAN/AFP/Getty Images

The portrait of former Zimbabwean President Robert Mugabe is removed from the wall at the International Conference centre, after his resignation on 21st November 2017 in Harare. Robert Mugabe resigned as president of Zimbabwe on 21st November 2017, swept from power as his 37-year reign of brutality and autocratic control crumbled within days of a military takeover. The bombshell news was delivered by the parliament speaker to a special joint session of the assembly which had convened to impeach Mugabe, 93, who has dominated every aspect of Zimbabwean public life since independence in 1980.

Photo: JEKESAI NJIKIZANA/AFP/Getty Images

This photo taken on 19th November 2017 shows participants crossing the Jiaozhou Bay Bridge as they compete in the 2017 Qingdao International Marathon on the Sea in Qingdao in China's eastern Shandong province.

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Bride Evelia Reyes and groom Brian Houston, living on different sides of the US-Mexico border, stand for a family portrait after being briefly reunited and getting married during the 'Opening the Door of Hope' event at the border fence gate in Playas de Tijuana, Mexico on 18th November 2017. The event was organised by the Border Angels migrant advocacy group, in coordination with the Tijuana city government and the US Border Patrol.

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Residents watch as a downhill rider competes during the Urban Bike Inder Medellin race final at the Comuna 1 shantytown in Medellin, Antioquia department, Colombia on 19th November 2017.

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A woman reacts over a relative's grave at the memorial centre of Potocari near Srebrenica on 22nd November 2017. United Nations judges on November 22nd sentenced former Bosnian Serbian commander Ratko Mladić to life imprisonment after finding him guilty of genocide and war crimes in the brutal Balkans conflicts over two decades ago.

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The Next Time Someone Corrects Your Grammar, Tell Them This

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Millennials have been blamed for the eradication of pretty much everything that prior generations once held so dear — from cereal to napkins to the housing market — and some fear that, even worse, they’re chipping away at the very foundation of the English language as we know it. Alas, even the once-innocuous full stop has not been spared the contempt of those pesky millennials, out to ruin everything in their path that’s had a solid run thus far.

But let’s face it: As the world evolves, our means of communication inevitably follows suit. It’s a cycle as old as time but, thanks to new technology, we’re seeing that evolution on a turbo-charged scale. The internet is a breeding ground for change, and from memes to Tumblr to emoji, the possibilities for modes of expression are expanding at an ever-increasing rate. And sure, that might mean fewer full stops and more nuanced slang, but it’s something we should be celebrating — not resisting.

Here are a few of the language and grammar “rules” that we once held as hard-and-fast but have shape-shifted over the years and, tbh, don’t really matter anymore...

Don’t end a sentence with a preposition
This one’s been over and done with for a while. Despite what your high school English teacher may have drilled into your brain, there is nothing inherently wrong with ending a sentence with a preposition — especially if the alternative is clunky and awkward-sounding. When was the last time you asked someone, “From where are you?”

Look a word up in the dictionary to determine whether it’s “real”
We all could benefit from being bolder about challenging the notion of “real” words. If we use a word and we write it down and we all understand its meaning, it’s real, plain and simple. Dictionaries record how people actually use words and sometimes they simply can’t keep up with the pace of change. The word adulting, for instance, is a word most of us have used for years by this point and know well, though you won’t find it in a current standard dictionary. You might also need to make up a word to convey an idea for which there is no “real” word in existence yet (maybe sciencey, not scientific, more accurately describes the sentiment you’re looking to express). And sometimes it just doesn’t matter whether you spell rollercoaster as one word or two; it’s understandable either way.

Use idioms or turns of phrase to mean what they originally intended and only what they originally intended
“Beg the question”, for instance, is a phrase derived from formal logic that means to make an assumption based on a premise that lacks evidence, or a kind of circular reasoning. But it’s just as fine used in its newfangled sense as a stand-in for “raises the question” — we can’t turn back time and undo this organic shift in its usage.

Don’t use they when you mean he or she
Not only does use of he or she or he/she erroneously suggest that only two genders exist, it’s also terribly stilted and clumsy-sounding. The singular, epicene they is here to stay, and it makes life for everyone a whole lot easier.

Use the subjunctive mood when something is wishful or contrary to fact
As an intrinsically cynical person, I’ll be honest — I don’t hate the subjunctive. A verb is in the subjunctive mood when it expresses something that is doubtful, wishful, or contrary to fact — aka using were instead of was(or adding the word had before a verb that isn’t was or were): “If I were to leave the house, I’d have to put on pants.” But I also accept the death of the subjunctive as imminent, because subbing in a was for were there (and in most other instances) works just as well and reads just as smoothly, albeit grammatically “incorrectly”.

Avoid profanity whenever possible
In a world where things much worse than a straggling F-word are accessible via the fingertips of children, we’ve seen a shift in attitudes toward “casual-use” profanity for comedic effect or more dramatic emphasis — see, for example, BuzzFeed quiz “How Fucking British Are You? ” or essential reading material “27 Trees That Don’t Give a Fuck About You Or Anything You Do.” We’d be much better off worrying about things that are truly offensive, like exclusive or derogatory language.

Always use end punctuation
This depends on context, of course. No one cares if you don’t end a tweet or Instagram caption with punctuation, or if you choose to punctuate a sentence with an emoji instead, for instance. But in anything more than a few lines long, of course, full stops and other end punctuation marks serve an essential purpose — and they’re not going away any time soon.

And of course, use the word whom instead of who in the objective case
Face it: You hate whom. (Go ahead, I won’t tell anyone!) Can you recall the last time you asked, “Whom is this for?” The worst offence is when whom is used incorrectly, in the subjective case — “They were not sure whom would do a better job” — a move made perhaps in fear of being judged for not using the correct form of the word. Let’s avoid the headache altogether and help whom see its way out; you can thank me later.

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The Founder Of Bumble On The Future Of Dating & Making It In Your 20s

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You have to be in the right frame of mind before sitting down to comprehend what Whitney Wolfe, the founder of Bumble, has achieved so far in her career. Because not only is she the CEO of the US's fastest-growing dating app (over 22 million users worldwide, and counting), with a stake in the business that would make her a centimillionaire, she’s also 28 years old. If you're at all lacking in self-esteem, it's a bit of a kick in the teeth.

Wolfe, who also happens to be on the current cover of Forbes magazine and included on its esteemed 30 Under 30 list (no big deal), is credited with having changed the dating game by letting women make the first move.

Famously, she was inspired to start her feminist company after a scarring experience as one of the cofounders of Tinder, which remains the world’s most downloaded dating app. Wolfe sued the company for sexual harassment in 2014 and alleged that she’d been discriminated against while working there. She claimed her ex-boss and former boyfriend, Justin Mateen had sent her abusive texts and called her a “whore” after she ended their relationship, while another cofounder was purported to have said that having a female cofounder made the company "seem like a joke". The case was settled without admission of wrongdoing for an undisclosed sum.

Following the ordeal, which sent her into "a deep depression", it’s no wonder Wolfe decided to take a different tack in her next venture – by focusing on women. In so doing, she has gained the ultimate revenge in an already saturated market. Bumble is now Tinder’s closest competitor and is quickly catching up, with faster year-on-year growth.

Given all that Wolfe has achieved at such a young age, you wouldn’t blame anyone for feeling trepidation before meeting her (her recent Italian wedding to Michael Herd, a restaurateur who's also in the oil and gas business, even warranted a lengthy feature and whole gallery’s worth of images in Vogue. Again, prepare to feel at least a little envy as you click on). But in person, Wolfe's refreshing candour and concern for the people around her are disarming, immediately putting you at ease. Refinery29 sat down with the barnstorming entrepreneur to talk self-care, overcoming rejection and her company's recent foray into networking, Bumble Bizz.

On dealing with sexists in the workplace

"When we were building Bumble Bizz, a lot of people told me they were glad because they were being solicited through LinkedIn by guys saying things like, 'Professionally speaking, you’re really beautiful'. That’s not professional. This happens a lot – I get those messages. Even if they’re not necessarily inappropriate in an inflammatory sense, they'll say stuff like, 'Hi, I saw you on Bumble and just thought I’d reach out to you here'. No, that’s not how this works, don’t do that.

"My advice would be to just ignore messages like that. Don’t engage with bullies or harassers. Telling them off is great if that gives you peace of mind, but it’s just not worth your time to engage with those people. Bumble is great because women have to make the first move so you’re protected, it’s secure, you aren't being bombarded by messages in dating or in the professional realm."

On attending to fragile male egos

"When the woman makes the first move, there’s a whole psychology behind it. If you look at traditional male-to-female connecting, men have been given the role since day one to go after women and chase them down. Given that role and expectation, they’re obviously going to get turned down at some point because if you’re always doing something, you’re not always going to succeed at it. They’re going to be rejected.

"While women have been trained to play hard to get, to be demure, we’re telling men to be aggressive and go after her. But in order for him to get here, he has to figure out how to push through rejection and unfortunately, when someone experiences rejection, it can breed aggression and aggressive behaviour. It makes you insecure. I’ve been rejected before and it made me insecure and there have been times in the past when I’ve said something mean as a result. It’s just a natural human instinct to be like, 'I didn’t like you anyway'. Even after a simple rejection, like not getting into a certain school, someone might say, 'Oh, I didn’t want to go there anyway'. Yeah, you did, but it didn’t work out. So when it comes to love and romance, especially hiding behind a profile screen, men become aggressive. The nice thing is, if a woman is making the first move, that dynamic evens out."

I’ve been in a place in my life where I’ve had no confidence, no self-respect, zero self-worth and it was really easy to hurt my feelings. Then when you rebuild some of that, you become stronger.

On making the first move

"Personalised lines are the best. We ran a study comparing people who just said 'hey' and those who said 'hey' with a first name, and that made such a difference because it was obvious the person was talking to them specifically and not just anyone. We’re building conversation starters into the app soon and I can’t give you too much detail, but we’re playing with a few ideas, such as the most popular conversation starters of the day, and stuff like that."

On dealing with rejection

"Don’t take it personally. Every human on earth has their own personal preference. It’s ok – you cannot expect every single thing to go exactly the way you want it to, people are so different from each other and it’s ok to let certain things work and certain things not work. It's about finding confidence within and feeling secure, regardless of what people around you do.

"But this is easier said than done, which is why I want to build a company that encourages empowerment, confidence and respect, because when you have self-respect, it’s really hard to get you down. I’ve been in a place in my life where I’ve had no confidence, no self-respect, zero self-worth, and it was really easy to hurt my feelings, anything would trigger me to be sad. Then when you rebuild some of that, you become stronger."

On picking yourself up after a knockback

"First of all, you have to realise that things are bigger than just you – that’s what I had to do. I had to think: all this stuff that is hurting my feelings, making me depressed, sad or anxious, this is bigger than just me and every time I feel this way, there are millions of women around the world who probably feel this way, too. Once you make it bigger than yourself and strive to do something to make a change for others, it will rebuild you. I know a lot of women who have been in abusive relationships and they healed by helping other women going through that. See if you can lend an ear, help or support to others going through something similar."

On ageism in the workplace (and why profiles on Bumble Bizz don't contain a user's age)

"I’ve never experienced it myself, but unfortunately a lot of women I’ve spoken to have. They've got married or are in abusive relationships and are now in their 40s or 50s and they may want to get back in to the workplace or be trying to rebuild their lives but they’re scared and thinking, 'Who’s going to hire me when there’s a 22-year-old, fresh out of university with all these skills?' They feel at a disadvantage. I wanted to alleviate the assumption that employers are only looking for 20 to 25-year-olds. It works the other way, too – some people assume you have to be in your 40s to have any experience but maybe the 20-year-old has just as much savvy and skill."

On being the CEO of the US’s fastest-growing dating app in her 20s

"I try not to let my age affect how I run the company, other than ensuring it means I have a good understanding of what women my age are going through. I think it’s been a huge help because I can tell you what it felt like to be a 25-year-old three years ago, and I can relate to this young dating scene. And now I’m transcending that – I just got married – and am thinking about family, so these things are now in my mind, which changes how you think about the older demographic. It reminds me that I need to be thinking about women in their 30s, 40s, 50s and 60s, but that I also need to be paying attention to what the 19-year-olds are doing. Age is so important because, in terms of culture and in terms of marketing, it does define what people are interested in."

On the pressure to carry on achieving after so much early success

"It’s all relative. What I perceive as what I’ve achieved might be different to what someone else thinks I’ve achieved. I don’t measure achievements by 'I did this or that by this age'. I measure it by the impact we’re having. It’s inspiring and exciting. A German woman told me just this morning that it’s still taboo for women there to make the first move and that excites me because it means we still have so much left to achieve."

On leading a family-friendly business

"We’ve hired a lot of women with children recently and it’s given me a lot of perspective on just how hard it is to be a working mum. I have so much respect for the men and women with kids that it's made me think about it more than I would have a year or two ago. I wasn’t thinking about the mum market before because it didn’t touch me. Now, we let our employees bring their children to work, we let them leave early to go do school pick-ups or drop-offs and then they get back online later. We’re a very mother-friendly workplace – we have a pumping room for new mums. We try to take care of people so they can balance their lives. I’m not good at practising this in my own life, I’m trying to get better, but you have to have balance."

Photo: Kristen Kilpatrick

On the possibility of adapting Bumble for parents in the future

"Absolutely [we would introduce new features for parents]. They’re not so much my ideas at this stage, they’re team members’ ideas – the mothers and fathers on the team often say, 'I wish this or that existed'. They’re not wild about anything else on the market right now, so maybe that's something we’ll think about down the road."

On striking the perfect work-life balance

"We like [that Bumble allows users to flick between dating, socialising and networking], because we want to mimic real life. We don't want to separate it to a point where it feels unnatural. If you walk into a bar, for example, there will be lots of different connections taking place – people on work meetings, groups of friends, new mums talking to each other, romantic relationships taking place. In your phone you're getting messages from people you work with, people you went to school with, people you might be romantically interested in. This is what makes up your life. I don’t believe it’s healthy to separate them so much. We think that if you're connecting in an empowered way, it’s ok for them all to live together.

"The nice thing about Bumble Bizz is, it’s not necessarily work, it’s networking and just getting to know each other. It’s not stuffy and serious, it’s fun. You could be like, 'Hey, oh you’re a journalist too, I love that magazine, let’s get a coffee and talk about what we love and don’t love'. Or you might be tired and want to talk to someone who can relate to your particular work problems."

I know how bad it made me feel when I was going through dark times and I would read about all these 'boss girls' and successful tech people. They sounded so perfect and I thought, 'This will never be me.'

On reports that she wakes up at two-hour intervals every night to check her emails

"I’ve tried to do it less but it still happens a lot. I’m trying to get my sleep under control. I’m doing Headspace and I’m trying to sleep with my phone charging on the other side of the room. I get so nervous [putting it on airplane mode] because there are a lot of things that can go wrong and I’m very close to my loved ones and I like to always have contact."

On striking a balance between presenting the 'real' you and the optimum version of you on social media

"This is a huge topic in our office right now. Mental health is so important and we think the pressure to be perfect is making us all crazy and sad. But it’s hard because, on the other hand, when you’re meeting new people you want to put the best foot forward.

"We’re working through this conflict right now as a business, too. Do we team up with an empowered beauty brand and encourage users to go makeup-free in their profile pictures to raise money for charity? There are so many different things we can do. Just be yourself, whether you’re dressed up to the nines or in your comfy workout clothes; be whoever you want to be."

On being open about her own struggles with stress and mental health

"I do [feel a responsibility to be open]. I like being honest and I know how bad it made me feel when I was going through dark times and I would read about all these 'boss girls' and successful tech people. They sounded so perfect and I thought, 'This will never be me because I have all these problems'. I think it’s healthy and important [to be open and honest]. We have an audience of 22 to 23 millions users now – that’s a lot of people and as the CEO, it’s my responsibility to ensure that both my team and our users feel healthy and happy."

On dealing with work stress

"If you can give me the answer [to how to deal with it], I’d be really grateful! I don’t [deal with it]. I’m struggling. I have panic attacks. I have horrible anxiety. I have really, really good days where I feel on top of the world, I’m on inbox zero and feel like a machine, and then there are times when I think I can’t do this anymore and it’s ok to feel that way. Not everything is going to be easy and when you just accept and embrace that, it becomes easier."

On her self-care rituals for staying grounded

"I try to put the phone down throughout the day – even just for 20 minutes at a time – and get some stuff done and think about something else. I’m trying to read more and spend more mealtimes with no phone. With my husband, I try to leave my phone in the car at least two to three times a week if we go out to dinner, or leave it upstairs in the bedroom while we cook."

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These Baby Names Are Predicted To Be The Most Popular In 2018

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Baby name trends come and go – from gender-neutral and animal-esque names to Game of Thrones-inspired monikers – but a few old favourites always seem to make it onto lists of the Most Popular Baby Names. For girls, Olivia and Charlotte have fared consistently well in recent years, while Harry and Jack have proven popular for boys.

But new predictions of 2018's most popular baby names suggests a sea change in the world of girls' names (well, kind of). According to the folks at pregnancy and parenting website Babygaga, the name Olivia, the popular choice for girls this year, doesn't even feature in the top 20, The Sun reported.

The site, which looked at data from previous years to work out which names are up-and-coming, claims Charlotte will still be popular, coming in at second place. But the most popular predicted girls' name for 2018? The ever-present and perfectly lovely Emma.

Other names thought to be popular for baby girls next year include Sadie, Violet, Kennedy and Savannah, with the Chrissy Teigen and John Legend-inspired Luna also making it into the top 20 and names like Hazel and Stella making a comeback.

There's also some change predicted in the naming of baby boys, with the usually popular Harry failing to scrape into the top 20 and Finn taking the top spot. Jack is anticipated to retain its popularity, coming in at second place and old favourite Oliver also making the top five. Atticus, Theodore, Reuban and Dylan are also forecast to have their moment in the spotlight next year.

As interesting as this forecast is, we can't see Olivia and Harry going down without a fight.

Most popular predicted girls' names for 2018

1. Emma
2. Charlotte
3. Sadie
4. Violet
5. Kennedy
6. Savannah
7. Penelope
8. Victoria
9. Ellie
10. Hazel
11. Natalie
12. Luna
13. Rylie
14. Aurora
15. Scarlett
16. Nora
17. Zoe
18. Amelia
19. Harper
20. Stella

Most popular predicted boys' names for 2018

1. Finn
2. Jack
3. Atticus
4. Oliver
5. Theodore
6. Reuban
7. Dylan
8. Corin
9. Adam
10. Alexander
11. Daniel
12. Christopher
13. Brandon
14. Logan
15. Joseph
16. Hunter
17. Lucas
18. Kai
19. Jasper
20. Isaac

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These Everyday Items Tell The Painful Stories Of Heartbreak

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One of the most burdensome tasks in the aftermath of a painful breakup is having to return each other's belongings. Unless you decide to chuck them on a bonfire along with an effigy of your ex and the imagined future you'd projected onto them, most of us will go through this gruelling process at some point in our lives. But one couple, at their end of their own union 12 years ago, decided to take a different tack.

In the bid to soothe their own heartbreak, Olinka Vištica and Dražen Grubišić brought together a selection of the items left over from their four-year relationship and displayed them for the world to see in an exhibition in Croatia. Soon enough, the Museum of Broken Relationships became a fully-fledged museum in the Old Town of Zagreb (and now LA), touring the world in places from London to South Africa, and morphing into something of a worldwide phenomenon.

The pair, having been sent the remnants of affairs gone sour from all over the world, have now curated a new book containing some of the most compelling items. The everyday objects, which range from the minute and seemingly insignificant (dried-up contact lenses, a tiny piece of paper, some candy), to the more obviously momentous (a diamond ring, a wedding veil), the intriguing (a Galileo thermometer, a hand-carved 'Pinocchio dick', a copy of The New Yorker), and the downright anger-inducing (silicone breast implants, a gifted copy of a weight-loss book), are fascinating. If you particularly relish the nitty gritty of other people's relationships and inner lives, the photos and accompanying stories will leave you transfixed.

All images © Olinka Vištica and Dražen Grubišić 2017. Extracted from The Museum of Broken Relationships: Modern Love in 203 Everyday Objects by Olinka Vištica and Dražen Grubišic (Weidenfeld & Nicolson) out now.

Tiny piece of paper
2001 to 2009
Los Angeles, CA

"I am an artist and when my girlfriend and I lived together she would get antsy for my attention when I was working in the other room. One day when I was painting in our room, she came in and slid me a tiny piece of paper that said "pay attention to me." I found it maybe two years after we broke up and it's been in the change compartment of my car ever since."

Wedding dress in a jar
Seven years
San Francisco, United States

"We were together for seven years, five of them married. Our wedding was a small casual ceremony near the ocean on the island where we lived. I wore a silk dress covered in butterflies and flowers that I always thought I'd wear again but never did. He's been gone a year now and I haven't really known what to do with that dress. I hate throwing functional items in landfills but also don't really like the thought of someone else unknowingly walking around in something so representative of my broken dreams. I've put it in this jar because I like recycling but mostly I think it looks beautiful again taking on this new shape. It's a lot less sad when it's not hanging empty on a hanger. Plus I'm sure there's a metaphor to be found there somewhere."

Silicone breast implants
2009 to 2013
Los Angeles, CA and New York, NY

"My ex had convinced me to get breast implants. He would continually comment on how he was a "boob guy" and allude to the idea that my natural breasts were not big enough. At the time I hadn't had enough therapy to tell him to go fuck himself; and over time I began to believe that my breasts were inadequate. I got silicone breast implants which he initially paid for, but then made me pay him back. I had these implants in my body for 5 years. Some of the years with him, and some without. I hated them the entire time.

They not only caused me emotional trauma, but they ended up physically traumatizing me as well. My body rejected them from day one, and in the first year I had two surgeries: one to place them and one surgery for revision. They would not sit properly in my body. In the second surgery, the surgeon decided to detach nearly my entire pectoral muscle from my sternum. I had no idea it had been cut so far and that eventually lead to a rotator cuff injury as well as causing the implants to rise higher and higher on my chest. I looked like I had on an insanely high, hard push up bra on at all times. I finally decided to have the implants removed to reclaim my own natural, beautiful body, and to close the door on any leftover influence that ex had on my life. The removal surgery was arguably more intense than the other surgeries. It was a complete reconstruction of my breasts, as well as having to repair my pectoral muscle. Apparently my pecs were cut, rolled back and sutured by the previous surgeon. So the current surgeon had to undo the sutures, unroll and stretch the pectoral muscle, and then sew it back to the bone. Ouch. I mutilated my body for a man I loved. At the time I loved him more than I loved myself, which I now know is very toxic. You need to love yourself fully and completely before you and truly love another. I am so much happier since having these removed. The surgeon was so surprised and amused by the fact that I wanted to keep these, but how could I not? They have marked such a huge emotional journey for me. Part of me wanted to mail the implants to my ex in a box with a note that said, "I'm finished with these." But as funny as that would be, I think this exhibit seems to be a much better, and a much healthier idea. What a beautiful send off for these two lumps of silicone that caused me so much pain."

Underwater writing tablet
September 2007 to July 2009
Los Angeles, CA

"When I found out my husband was cheating on me, I posted about it on Craigslist. I received dozens of responses but only one wrote that he was going through the same thing. We met and started an affair. He was a scuba diver so I took a course and was certified. We ended up diving together several times around Southern California and in the Caribbean. I used this slate to write him messages and we even took off our masks and kissed underwater. We remained together more than a year after my marriage ended; he was still with his wife when I broke it off but subsequently divorced and remarried. I haven't been diving since."

Pinocchio dick (to wear on nose)
February 2010 to May 2015
Boise, Idaho

"I dated a complete and utter narcissist off and on for five years. He abused me physically, mentally, and emotionally. Just months before he was arrested for assault, his buddy showed up at his shop one night (my ex is a metal forge artist/blacksmith) with a surprise "gift." Nathan (my ex) had been whining about our failing relationship and how he just couldn't control his wild bursts of anger or alcoholism.

Steve listened as Nathan told him from a narcissist's standpoint just how much of a dick he had been. That night at the shop, Steve gifted him a hand-carved Pinocchio dick . . . as Steve put it. "You can wear this every time you are a dick, Nathan." He went on to tell Nathan (right in front of both of us) to remember also to tell me three things every time he screwed up: "You're right. I'm sorry. I love you."

I have no idea how it ended up in the bottom of a box of art supplies, but I recently discovered it.

(P.s. I also ended up with the dog, and while she would be happy to hang out in an art museum for months, I refuse to let her out of my sight for more than a few hours)."

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My Post-Abortion Relationship Was A Post-Mortem Relationship

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When you have an abortion, a lot of things happen that people won't tell you about. For instance, that you’ll have cramps worse than those of your early teen periods, or that you’ll have blood clots the size of your fist falling into your knickers for the coming weeks. Or that you’ll have to find pads with a larger wingspan than a transatlantic jet to prevent your knickers looking like the backroom of a butcher’s shop. Or that the first people to greet you as you make your way up to the clinic will be a group of pro-life (more often than not) men with placards of your foetus’ development, looking at you like you’ve just escaped from Broadmoor.

But in my case, the thing that no one forewarned me about, the thing that was more dizzying than the blood loss, was that for the foreseeable future I would feel about as sexy as a limp liver chop. My partner and I didn’t have sex for a good few months after my surgical abortion. For those less in-the-know, a surgical abortion involves putting your legs in stirrups and a dildo-shaped vacuum cleaning you out while you lie unconscious. The only 'jobs' performed in my post-abortion household were cleaning, cooking and getting bloodstains out of my very nice and expensive sheets.

Like an increasing number of women who choose to have an abortion, I was (and still am) in a serious relationship when I chose to terminate my pregnancy at 13 weeks. Last year, there were nearly 200,000 abortions carried out in England and Wales and of those, an astonishing 70% were on women who were in a relationship of some kind. Call me selfish – actually, don’t, because that’s ill-informed and pooh-poohs my right to do whatever I want with my body – but I didn’t feel guilty about my choice. I just didn’t want a child, regardless of the fact that our relationship was more than equipped to handle one – and I still stand by my decision a year on.

It’s horribly conflicting being pregnant but not wanting the baby. On one hand, your boobs have swollen to the most magnificent proportions, they stand to attention when you look at them and are rock-solid – it’s nature’s own Wonderbra. You’re a bit plumper but it feels good, well-deserved and natural. On the other hand, you’re enjoying all of the above knowing you’ll be the one putting an end to it very soon.

As my body began to flourish, so did my sex drive. I was secretly proud that I’d managed to get pregnant even though I’m on the pill, chain-smoke, drink my 15-stone boyfriend under the pool table more than I should and exercise for me is walking to the vending machine at the office and back. Getting pregnant felt, well, thrilling – and as my confidence sprung into action, my bedsprings followed suit.

If you google how big your baby is at 12 weeks, you’ll discover that, by this point, your foetus is being described as a “human”. Now, if that doesn’t pull at your long-lost tampon string, then perhaps its size might: “His face looks unquestionably human: His eyes have moved from the sides to the front of his head, and his ears are right where they should be. From crown to rump, your baby-to-be is just over 2 inches long (about the size of a lime) and weighs half an ounce,” says one website.

Ultimately, having an abortion is only a couple of handshakes away from the sex that got you there in the first place, so your relationship, and sex, is bound to change.

So when I went into the abortion clinic, every image of a foetus at 12 weeks’ gestation brandished by those pro-life campaigners felt like a fail on my brain’s part. I was going against my body’s instinct and relying on a tiny voice in my head that was working out my salary for the next tax year if I had to give up work and look after a baby. Even as my body protested, that voice walked me into the clinic. It is still the most out-of-body feeling I’ve ever had. And as I was being administered the anaesthetic, legs spread, with a doctor making awkward jokes, I couldn’t have hated myself and my body any more. Then as my consciousness left me, so did the idea of sex. My partner and I left the clinic and walked home. We didn’t hold hands, or each other, for a long time after.

Ultimately, having an abortion is only a couple of handshakes away from the sex that got you there in the first place, so your relationship with your partner, and sex, is bound to change. What with the blood escaping me daily, wearing sanitary towels the size of nappies and my body deflating like a balloon, the idea of sex felt like a joke. A post-abortion relationship is a post-mortem relationship. To make matters worse, even though he’d never say it outright, I knew from friends that my partner had wanted to keep the baby and, if I’m really honest with myself, I don’t think he’s ever really forgiven me in his heart of hearts. Knowing that is quite the passion-killer.

We didn’t have sex for the next few months and when we eventually did, it was lights off, eyes closed, get-the-job-done kind of sex. My libido was gone, sucked out along with the contents of my womb. I felt bruised and sore. My body – which had been so good to me for years – was no longer mine; it felt like I had somehow betrayed the natural inclinations of my organs, like I had stabbed an old friend in the back. It’s only now, nearly a year on, that we’re back on track.

I’ve had friends who had a termination and never spoke about it again. I really can’t relate to them. What did help in reclaiming my body was knowing that I’m horribly privileged to have even had the choice: nearly 25% of the world’s population live in countries with highly restrictive abortion laws. I may not have felt sexy but the guilt and the out-of-body emotions faded when I really thought about how lucky I was just to have control of my body. I could get pregnant, I could decide what I wanted to do about it, and my government would support, facilitate and pay for my decision. Choice? That’s sexy.

Since going double Dutch (the pill and a condom, not the children’s skipping game), I’ve become that neurotic contraception-taker who sets an alarm for her pill. And rightfully so. My partner is getting better at being intimate, even though for months he would pull out before he came. I knew this wasn’t because my belly was the helipad he preferred to land on, it was because he couldn’t bear the thought of going through that again. Frankly, neither can I.

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How To Make Your House Cosy Now It's Officially Freezing Outside

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Single-glazed windows, no central heating system or stingy housemates; there's a whole host of reasons why you might be struggling to get warm in your own home.

The truth of the matter is, we can't convince your landlord that a house without radiators should basically be illegal in 2017, or bully your flatmate into letting you keep the heating on for more than 20 minutes in the morning. What we can do, though, is give you a list of the cosiest of cosy homeware bits currently on the market so you can make yourself into a human blanket burrito until the sun comes out again in, oh, April.

Click through to find out how to make your house cosy.

Red Wine Decanter

Nothing warms the heart like a big glass of red wine and no two warmer colours exist together than red and gold, so put your hands together and fill this rather handsome decanter with the most originally-expensive-but-now-on-offer red wine your local supermarket has to offer.

Boja Gold Foil Decanter, £26, available at Oliver Bonas

Sheepskin Throw

Just in case whatever surface you're sitting on isn't cosy enough, add layers and warmth between it and your bum with this sheepskin throw, perfect for transforming wood or metal seated chairs into something a little more comfortable.

Genuine New Zealand Long Wool Curly Sheepskin, £75, available at Rockett St. George

Teapot

Fill with whatever tea you please, just don't be foolish enough to let it go cold.

Castell Orange Teapot, £35, available at Habitat

Lantern

This lantern is specifically designed to fulfil the definition of cosy – it's got "hygge" right there in the name.

Antique Brass Hygge Lantern, £36.50, available at Rose & Grey

Wall Hanging

If you've got a wall in your bedroom that faces the outside of the house, chances are your room can get a little cold. Block out the chill and make your walls look dreamy with this thick wool wall hanging.

Holly's House Cali Pile Wall Hanging, £213, available at Trouva

Fleece Throw

Whether you use this blanket as an extra layer on your bed or a method of wrapping up warm on the sofa, there's no doubt this will be the softest of winter warmers you don this season.

Sylvie Orange Plush Throw Blanket, £65, available at Urban Outfitters

Floor Cushion

If you've got limited seating in your lounge (and don't we all), chuck a couple of these on the floor to make non-bum-freezing seating options for guests.

Sylvie Plush Floor Cushion, £45, available at Urban Outfitters

Quilt

There's nothing more comforting than a really heavy and substantial covering when you're lying in bed, and this velvet quilt is exactly that.

Pebble Quilt, £195, available at Graham & Green

Oil Burner

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From Acne To Hyperpigmentation, Dermatologists Solve R29's Skincare Concerns

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We all have a particular skincare issue we'd like to fix. We're not talking about changing the way we look, but the way our skin behaves. An oily T-zone that looks more like a mirror than a forehead come lunchtime? We've been there. Scarring left from a nasty bout of hormonal acne? We understand.

Skin is a very temperamental thing, subject to change whenever we switch up our environment, hormones, lifestyle or the products we use. It can often feel like a constant battle (when a dry patch clears up, blackheads might appear), which is why we went to the best in the business to put our skin concerns under the spotlight.

Ten Refinery29 staff, all with a plethora of skin tones and types, asked 10 dermatologists to help solve their issues. Read on to find out what they advised.

Meg O'Donnell, Photo Assistant

"I really neglect my skin..I use micellar water and moisturiser in the evening and repeat that (lengthy) process again when I wake up. So I'd like to find a skincare routine to benefit my combination skin. I am often quite oily yet dry on my nose, and have random patches of dry skin on my cheeks. Also, I have quite big pores and small pimply skin and would love to hear what I can do to exfoliate in a delicate way without using a harsh scrub."

Abigail James, celebrity facialist

“For a combination skin, just using a micellar water and moisturiser is not going to be enough, and may well be contributing to small pimples on the face. It may also cause the skin to sway from oily to dry.

Micellar water is a mix of water and minute oil particles. I only really see it as a quick way to remove makeup rather than cleansing your face. You are likely to be leaving product on the skin then applying your moisturiser on top of this, clogging pores. This means the skin is not able to breathe, which, in turn, slows cell turnover resulting in dull and patchy skin.

Using a micellar for a quick remove of makeup is fine but I would suggest also using a gentle wash to properly cleanse the skin morning and night. Starting the day with a gentle cleanse allows your moisturiser and makeup to sit on a fresh, clean base. This should also help keep pores clean even if they are slightly large. Nivea Daily Essentials Refreshing Face Wash Gel or Cosmedix Benefit Clean Gentle Cleanser are both good to begin with.

Exfoliating with something gentle 2-3 times a week will also help the skin. You could use a Clarisonic, or an AHA face mask which would gently remove dead skin cells while adding some hydration to dry skin. I would recommend a vitamin C mask or a night / morning combo, too. I love the way Nivea have done this with their Q10 Plus Vit C Skin Sleep Cream. It's a great nighttime boost for dry skin. Try Nivea Q10 Plus C Energy Day Cream with SPF 15 in the morning for a pick-me-up and sun protection.

To further support large pores, you could look to include a derma roller in the evening once a week as an additional step. That said, I would make the other changes first, see how skin responds over a two-month period, and then look to progress.”

Samantha Yu, Brand Director

"I have hyper-pigmentation on either side of my face as a result of acne. I've had it for about 10 years, since breaking out in high school. I've tried so many things, from natural products to treatments like microdermabrasion and glycolic peels to light therapy. Help!"

Dr. Justine Hextall, consultant dermatologist atThe Harley Medical Group

"Firstly I would wish to assess the depth of the pigmentation as this is crucial to assess appropriate treatments. It may be that although acne inflammation triggered the pigmentation, other factors may be exacerbating the situation. Topical treatments such as Kligman's cream (with hydroquinone, hydrocortisone and retinoid) may help to reduce the pigmentation and is probably advisable to use before any active treatments, such as a peel. As the latter in itself can cause post-inflammatory pigmentation, I always advise caution with any peels in the context of hyper-pigmentation. After a course of Kligman's cream, Derma FNS may help. This can target pigmentation and any possible acne scarring. Finally, ongoing treatments to reduce recurrence would include a high factor sun cream, preferably with a physical block such as zinc oxide, and I advise topical vitamin C. It blocks the production of melanin, and has antioxidant properties that protect against free radical damage from UV and pollution that can cause unwanted skin pigmentation."

Rose Lander, International Coordinator

"I've had milia around and under my eyes for around 10 years. I once had them removed during a facial but they came back. In the past I've used exfoliating scrubs, but my skin is too sensitive. Now I use an overnight exfoliator and sometimes they come away on their own while I wash my face – but nothing I've tried has really worked."

Dr. Frances Prenna Jones, cosmetic anti-ageing doctor

"It is important to differentiate milia from fatty deposits under the skin (they can often look the same), as the treatment of these is often different. Milia are essentially trapped calcified secretions under the skin which are often caused by using too greasy a moisturiser and not using glycol-type products, which slough away the top dead layer of skin cells. Paradoxically, if you physically scrub the area though it will make them worse! So prevention is better than cure: use a product that contains glycol. They need to be removed by an experienced professional otherwise, as they can scar if you try and remove them yourself."

Alice Casely-Hayford, Fashion & Beauty Director

"I have dark skin that scars very easily. Even the smallest, most inoffensive spot can leave a dark mark that can take weeks, if not months, to fade. What would be your advice for hyperpigmentation? Are there any products I should try or a change to my routine or approach to skincare? I'm so bored of pinpoint concealing each morning in order to make my skin tone appear more even. Please help!”

Dr. Nyla Raja, cosmetic dermatology GP

"Hyperpigmentation can be treated by two different methods, either clinically or topically. In terms of clinical treatments, I would recommend the M22 laser, or the Ultrapulse laser, both of which are suitable for darker skin tones. M22 and Ultrapulse treat pigmentation on a cellular level by breaking down the excess melanin which causes hyperpigmentation.

Topically, it is important that skincare to help with hyperpigmentation contains the correct actives, as this is how you will see the best results. Ingredients such as azelaic acid and arbutin are effective in treating pigmentation on darker skin tones. A skincare range such as Universkin, which contains medical-grade actives, made into a bespoke formulation for the individual, would be my personal recommendation."

Natasha Slee, Social Media Manager

"My issue is sebaceous filaments. I rarely get spots but in the last 18 months or so I noticed these tiny, hard grey bumps filled with a drop-shaped hard bead. In the last month they have increased. I get them on my chin and between my brows. I haven't tried any products on them, but I'm obsessed with squeezing them out! How can I stop them or slow down their appearance?"

Dr. Anita Sturnham, GP, dermatologist, and founder of Nuriss Clinics

"Sebaceous filaments are often under-diagnosed and mistaken for blackheads or whiteheads. While their origin is the same as those pesky pimples – the pilosebaceous unit (pores) – their characteristics are very different.

A sebaceous filament is a tiny collection of sebum (oil) and old dead skin cells, which accumulate around a hair follicle. They usually take the form of a small, white or yellowish, hair-like strand. Sebaceous filaments are usually only found around the thin skin of the nose, unlike blackheads and whiteheads, which can form anywhere on the face.

If you analysed the histology of a sebaceous filament, you would see that they are composed of a skeleton structure of up to 30 horn-like cell layers. These are mixed with a blend of skin bacteria, sebaceous oils, corneocytes and a single hair. The reason I like to break down the structure of these filaments is that it enables us to select the best treatments to break the structures down.

To target the filaments you can add some fantastic skin ingredients into your daily skincare routine. Adding in a combination alpha and beta hydroxy acid cleanser will help, thanks to its double-action cleansing mechanism. The lactic and glycolic acid will help to exfoliate and remove dead skin cells, while the salicylic acid will seep into your pores, reduce bacteria, oil and pilosebaceous inflammation. Start off by using this at nighttime, which in my opinion should always be the more intensive cleanse in your regimen.

Dehydration can trigger an internal ‘skin repair’ mechanism, whereby the sebaceous glands try to rehydrate the skin, by switching on faster sebum production. This will undoubtedly increase the rate of pore clogging. The key to prevent this is to ensure that you have adequate skin hydrators in your skincare but to also take care to avoid those pore-clogging facial oils and comedogenic moisturisers. High molecular-weight hyaluronic acid in your morning and night serums will be your skin saviour. This natural skin hydrator hydrates and nourishes the epidermal and dermal layers, without pore-clogging.

Adding in a retinoid (vitamin A) serum or night cream will be a great asset for your skin. This multitasking skin nutrient will reduce sebum, bacteria, inflammation and improve epidermal turnover. There's no need to blitz your skin with high doses of retinoids to address this skin concern. 0.5-1% of a second or third generation retinoid works wonders and I find products with additional hyaluronic acid in the formula help to counteract any dryness or irritation that one may see typically after using these types of products.

To take things up a gear you can also seek advice from a dermatologist. There are numerous treatments that can assist, such as salicylic acid peels and professional extractions. I also like to add in Q-switch high-powered clearlift laser treatments too, which can really enhance the efficacy of your topical treatments."

Sadhbh O'Sullivan, Social Media Assistant

"I've had hormonal, cystic acne for least a year and a half now. I've tried everything and am currently using Differin and Acnecide which has sorted out the acne for the most part but big pores, redness, hyperpigmentation and easy inflammation are still a problem. I have pared back my skincare routine and use various masks and peels to soothe and calm. My skin is extra-sensitive to sodium laurel sulphate which can make me break out in painful whiteheads, and harsh acids like salicylic acid dry me out and don't work. Help!"

Dr. Sajjad Rajpar, consultant dermatologist at Belgravia Dermatology

"The good news is that it sounds as though your active is under control. You have redness and sensitive skin because both the treatments you are using cause irritation as a side-effect. It may be time to cut down Acnecide to alternate nights or even to twice a week. It may also be helpful to introduce a light non-comedogenic moisturiser which contains vitamin B3 to help restore the skin barrier. These measures will improve redness and sensitivity.

There are other reasons you may have redness too. When acne spots resolve they can leave a localised area of redness which can last for several months. This is because inflammation in an acne spot causes new blood vessels to form in the skin. The redness can be quite deep in colour and, fortunately, usually lessens with time. Laser treatment or IPL can help reduce the level of redness very effectively. Inflammation in an acne spot can also cause pigmentation by disturbing pigment-producing cells in the skin. Again, pigmentation will usually resolve naturally but this can take several months or even years. Tixel therapy, a fractional resurfacing treatment in which a hot plate with tiny probes is applied to the skin, works wonders to reduce pigmentation."

Louise Whitbread, Editorial Intern

"I suffer from acne, which is mostly hormonal, on my chin, and I have a very oily T-zone. I always take my makeup off before bed, double cleanse when I've worn makeup, and try to avoid anything with SLS, mineral oil, shea butter and typically stick to fragrance-free cleansers. What else can I do?”

Dr. Sarah Tonks, cosmetic physician, facial surgeon and dermatologist

"As someone with oily skin too I know how they feel. I have my patients use Skinceuticals Simply Clean, which is a cleanser containing AHAs. I find if wearing makeup it’s also important to tone, so again I tend to go with Skinceuticals Equalizing Toner or Obagi C-Rx Exfoliating Day Lotion, both of which contain witch hazel. I tend not to bother if I’m not wearing makeup. Then daytime I'll use SkinCeuticals C E Ferulic which is great for oily skin, then Alumier AHA Renewal Serum again because I like to layer these AHAs. Alumier Matticlear Solution is great to soak up any excess oils. I then like the Oxygenetix Oxygenating Foundation Acne Control SPF25 because it doesn't clog my pores. At nighttime I go with the same cleanser and toner followed by the Alumier Retinol Resurfacing Serum, and every other night I'll go with the Skinceuticals Resveratrol B E."

Sarah Raphael, Editor-at-Large

“I get spots after having my eyebrows threaded. Is there any way to avoid this?”

Dr. Stefanie Williams, dermatologist and author of Look Great, Not Done! The Art and Science of Ageing Well – How Aesthetic Treatments Can Work for You

"‘Breakouts’ after eyebrow threading are usually one of two things – irritation or folliculitis. If you develop some minor redness and a few tiny little ‘bumps’, this may be a simple irritant reaction. For mild irritant reactions, a soothing aloe vera gel might be all you need (wash your hands before applying it!). I would always recommend combining this with application of a non-irritant antiseptic such as Clinisept+ Solution to avoid bacterial contamination.

However, if this doesn’t help, a couple of days of a mild steroid cream, best in combination with an antibacterial ingredient (eg. prescription Fucidin H cream from your doctor), is usually very effective. However, proper breakouts with acne-like spots or pimples can be bacterial folliculitis, which means bacteria have entered the hair follicle during or shortly after the threading and are causing the ‘breakouts’.

To help prevent this, hygiene prior to and around the threading procedure is very important, so make sure you are visiting a reputable salon, your therapist doesn’t reuse thread and works as cleanly as possible. Also, avoid touching the area with your hands for a few hours after the threading. It’s also a good idea to dab a good, non-irritant antiseptic solution (eg. Clinisept+) onto the skin, prior to and after the treatment. If despite all precautions you still develop folliculitis, you might need topical antibacterial treatment from your doctor (eg. prescription Dalacin T lotion or Fusidic acid cream)."

Chemmie Squier, Branded Content Manager

"I've been suffering from hormonal acne for the past year and although it's finally clearing up (thanks, Differin!) I'm left with red marks/scarring on my skin where the spots once were. What's the most effective way to get rid of them? I regularly use acids in my skincare routine but I wonder if I should incorporate something else as well?"

Andrea Pfeffer, founder of Pfeffer Sal

"When it comes to reducing acne scarring, there are a few avenues that you can take but it’s important to ensure that the active acne is totally cleared – so be patient! This will ensure you don’t accidentally aggravate the breakouts whilst trying to target existing scarring.

In clinic, treatments such as our Great Skin Peels will reduce the pigmentation dramatically by deeply exfoliating and resurfacing the skin. Our peels are a series of controlled, lighter peels to achieve effective and safe results. This careful and delicate approach means that any down time and redness after treatments is minimised, a definite win when you have a real life to get on with.

If there are any textural changes, we would recommend a course of medical needling. This needling works on the principal of controlled trauma to the skin in order for it to start releasing growth factors, and puts the wonderful fibroblasts to work, leading to the right type of collagen being produced, which will then be remodelled, reducing the appearance of pitted scar.

At home, incorporating acids into your regimen is a great step towards reducing scarring so keep it up! Another must is to wear SPF every single day. Sun protection will prevent the scarring from becoming further pigmented or sensitised. No excuses! Apply, apply, apply – even on the cloudiest of days!"

Georgia Murray, Fashion & Beauty Writer

"I have very oily skin. I've tried every cleanser, moisturiser and primer under the sun, and piling on makeup makes my skin look cakey. Help!"

Dr. Murad, founder of Murad skincare

"There are several factors which may contribute to oiliness, such as environmental damage, not cleansing properly, hormonal changes and even stress. Topical skincare products can help improve your skin dramatically but it’s important to remember to also nourish your skin from within (orange-coloured foods like sweet potatoes, carrots and oranges are great because they help normalise cell production), as well as taking time to nurture your own wellbeing. If you can, take 10 minutes each day to look up from your phone, which I call going ‘Eyes Up’, to appreciate the world around you and spend time dedicated to you.

On another note, if you’re noticing your skin is oily or becoming more oily at certain times of the day, ensure you’re cleansing thoroughly every night and cleansing again in the morning with a cleanser formulated for an oily skin, such as Murad Time Release Blemish Cleanser or Daily Cleansing Foam. It’s important to choose products targeted to your skin concerns.

Also check that your moisturiser is working hard enough for you; ideally it will be suitable for oil-prone skin but it’s important to keep oily skin hydrated and protected too. Just because your skin is oily it doesn’t mean it’s hydrated, and a hydrated skin is a great base for healthy skin. Murad Oil-Control Mattifier SPF 15 hydrates skin, protects from UVB and UVA damage while controlling oil for up to eight hours.

You may also wish to use an intensive clay-based mask, such as Murad Pore Extractor Pomegranate Mask, once or twice a week – this will help keep oily skin at bay as it helps keep pores clean and clear, as well as helping absorb excess shine."

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I Made My Own Makeup For 5 Days — & This Is How It Looked

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These days, people are DIY-ing just about everything — from jewellery to furniture and even skin-care products. It's become so popular that a recent article even dubbed Millennials "Generation DIY." I'm a proud Generation DIY-er myself, but despite my love of learning, I've mostly avoided the makeup realm. Whipping up face and hair masks in the kitchen, I can do — but creating a mascara or lipstick that actually looks good and lasts through the work day? The whole thing seems incredibly intimidating.

So, in the spirit of challenging myself, I decided to try 5 days of only wearing makeup I made myself, following YouTube tutorials and recipes I found on Refinery29. First, I created my very own Lucie Lip Kit, a dupe modelled after one of my favourite lip products, the Kylie Lip Kit. I also discovered a surprising ingredient to fill in my brows (because, as many people out there can relate, I can't leave the house without doing my brows).

The biggest challenge, though, might have been making my own eyeliner. Typically, I err on the side of caution when it comes to eyeliner and opt for basic black or brown shades. Recently, however, I've been inspired by the graphic, colourful eyeliner looks floating around the internet (and on the likes of a certain Mi-Anne Chan), so I decided to mix my own blue liner and swap out my typical black cat-eye. And you know what? It might just become my new go-to.

So what did I learn? Well, it is actually quite easy to make your own makeup — I rarely used exact measurements and all the products turned out fairly wearable. Most importantly, however, I realised how much fun it is to play with colour and swatches, and try out a new look for the first time. Watch my experiment above, and let me know what you think in the comments below.

Editors' Note: Some of the ingredients used, including lavender oil, might be irritating to some skin types. Always do a patch test first or talk to your dermatologist before attempting a DIY makeup recipe.

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It's Official: Women Are Having Fewer Children Now

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Women in England and Wales are having smaller families than ever before, the latest statistics confirm.

The average number of children born to a woman who turned 45 last year is 1.90, the Office for National Statistics (ONS) has found. This is down from an average of 2.21 among women of their mothers' generation.

The number of women having no children has grown to 18% among women who turned 45 last year. It was just 11% among their mothers' generation.

The ONS also found that 44% of women had not had any children by the time they turned 30. Meanwhile, just 6% of women had started a family before they turned 20.

Emily Knipe of the ONS told the BBC that "it's not just childlessness" which is reducing the overall average number of children that women are having.

"It's not just a biological factor of people leaving it too late," she added. "There is a growing body of evidence that suggests people are choosing not to have children."

Her colleague Richard Miles told The Guardian: "It's fair to say that we have seen a trend of smaller families overall, but there are a lot of contributing factors to that. Education is a good example, and also [women] continuing to work, so that all fits in with the trend."

It's worth noting that the ONS statistics are predicated on the idea that a woman's child-bearing years end when she is 45. This is a standard figure among fertility analysts, but doesn't reflect the fact that a growing number of women are now having children after the age of 45.

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Women's Aid, the UK's national domestic violence charity, has today called for urgent government action to safeguard the future of domestic abuse refuges across the country.

To mark the International Day for the Elimination of Violence against Women, , Women's Aid has released new statistics highlighting that demand for refuge space in the UK far outstrips supply. On just one day this year, the charity found that 94 women and 90 children were turned away from refuge.

The charity warns that the government's proposed reforms to supported housing could reduce funding for domestic abuse refuges, preventing them from helping more women and children who are at risk.

"The Government’s new funding model for refuges could be the breaking point for these life-saving services which have already been operating for far too long on short-term, shoestring budgets," the charity's Chief Executive Katie Ghose said. "These proposed reforms mean that many refuges will be faced with the awful reality of either turning more women and children away or closing their doors forever. Without a safe place to escape to, more women and children will be put at risk."

Ghose advised: "Only by creating a long-term and sustainable funding model for a national network of refuges can we ensure that every woman and child can safely escape domestic abuse."

Writing in The Independent today, Labour MP Dawn Butler has called on the government to scrap its proposed reforms to supported housing in order to safeguard the future of the UK's domestic abuse refuges.

"Women’s refuges are a lifeline, access to which no woman should be denied. But the Government’s proposed supported housing funding reforms threaten the very existence of women’s refuges," she wrote. "I urge the Government to change course and develop a sustainable form of funding for women’s refuge services, to ensure that no more women and children are put at risk. We owe it to women and girls to get this right."

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Discarded clothing from retail chain H&M has been successfully fuelling a Swedish power plant, according to a story published by Bloomberg. A station located in Västerås, a city west of Stockholm, has replaced oil-and-coal-fueled power in an effort to continue the region’s mission to become a fossil-fuel-free nation.

If replacing one non-sustainable resource with another, well, non-sustainable resource sounds like a solution leading to a dead end, then it’s worth emphasising that the power plant is using the clothing that H&M is unable to sell.

“H&M does not burn any clothes that are safe to use,” said Johanna Dahl, head of communications for H&M in Sweden, to Bloomberg. “However it is our legal obligation to make sure that clothes that contain mould or do not comply with our strict restriction on chemicals are destroyed.”

Thanks to Sweden’s hydro, nuclear, and wind plants, it has quickly become a blueprint of what large corporations and the government can do to enact more sustainable practices. This is just one piece of the pie.

“For us it’s a burnable material,” said Jens Neren, head of fuel supplies at Malarenergi AB, a utility which owns and operates the 54-year-old plant, to Bloomberg. “Our goal is to use only renewable and recycled fuels.”

As for the plant in Västerås, Bloomberg noted that it replaced burning 400,000 tonnes of rubbish with 15 tons of H&M clothing instead. Now that is certainly sustainable. Sounds like fast fashion could be the coal industry’s biggest threat.

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Your Horoscope This Week

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Firm up those Christmas travel plans and put all your important communications in writing. And do it quick! This Sunday, messenger Mercury turns retrograde in Sagittarius — the sign that rules travel and uncensored truth — until December 22. Take a deep breath. This news doesn't have to dampen your festive spirit. But to avoid any intergalactic Grinchiness, clear, kind, and compassionate communication is key. Make no assumptions! Did you actually request that extra day off from your boss? Are you sure it's cool with your sister if you crash on her couch? Err on the side of over -communicating, even if you annoy a few people in the process. But here's where we should all censor ourselves until the 22nd: Doling out unsolicited advice and backseat driving (especially on Twitter). Those truth bombs might be spot-on, but timing is so off.

Sunday also features a full moon in Gemini, the sign of #twinning. Pair up for the win this weekend. Two heads, hands, and hearts will be better than one. With this expressive full moon arriving on the wings of Mercury retrograde, Sunday might be the last chance we have for a few weeks to have a productive conversation about a tricky topic. But vibe it out, because it might be better to keep things light or follow social Gemini's lure and seek new friends for our end-of-year playtime.

Sagittarius
November 22 to December 21

You never get a second chance to make a first impression, Sagittarius. So, how do people see you? On Tuesday, an exact alignment of messenger Mercury and ambitious Saturn puts a little extra shine on your public image. Practise your elevator pitch: Can you sum up your strengths in one minute or less? Order sleek new business cards, plan a few perfectly pulled-together meeting outfits, and spring for styling supplies when you can't afford to show up with a messy topknot. You want your visuals to communicate "competent" and "capable" this week, Archer. Think of this as an investment, not a splurge.

Expect the unexpected starting Sunday as communication planet Mercury turns retrograde in Sagittarius until December 22. This is a bit of a double-whammy for your outspoken sign. You may swear you're expressing yourself clearly, so why does it seem like your message isn't landing? So. Frustrating. Even your best-laid plans can go astray due to timing, scheduling, and other people's shenanigans. To keep yourself sane, slow down, scale back, and be flexible about any last-minute changes that may occur. And wait until after the 22nd to make any major debuts or revelations. Sunday's full moon in Gemini, your partnership sign, brings a watershed moment in an important relationship. You can finally put your feelings on the table and figure out the right label or next level for the two of you. Don't recoil if your heart wants more: Commitment, with the right person, can be liberating.

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Capricorn
December 22 to January 19

You can forgive and forget, Capricorn — but that doesn't mean you have to stick around and try to rebuild a relationship. On Tuesday, a sombre Mercury-Saturn union in your 12th house of endings could mean parting ways with a former BFF or close confidante. In the wake of a recent meltdown, you may feel hesitant to open up again after being hurt. Listen to that instinct, Capricorn. History can repeat itself. If this person is known for being insincere, protect your heart instead of risking a gut-wrenching second act. Even if you're dealing with a good person, ease back in slowly to honour your feelings.

Starting Sunday, your social butterfly side demands a break as outgoing Mercury turns retrograde in your house of closure until December 22. Hang up your wings and enjoy the rest. This is a time to turn inward instead of pushing ahead. Your hyperkinetic sign rarely unwinds enough to rest deeply, so try to see this three-week "forced slowdown" as a blessing in disguise. Pay attention to your dreams and little signs and omens that may bring things to light. Getting involved in a Christmas charity will be deeply fulfilling for you. And with Sunday's full moon in Gemini and your wellness corner, load up on preventative medicine to keep your immune system thriving. Think: citrus fruits, hot baths, lots of extra sleep. Get back on the workout wagon with some gentle exercise. It will help keep you grounded when family antics kick in.

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Aquarius
January 20 to February 18

The best way to put out a fire? Prevent one from happening in the first place, Aquarius. On Tuesday, as expressive Mercury mashes up with strict Saturn in your 11th house of teamwork, brewing group dynamics could approach the boiling point. Don't ignore an obvious problem — even if bringing attention to it makes others uncomfortable. If you don't call it out it now, there could be lasting damage that affects everyone, not just the slacker or disruptor in the bunch.

Back up your data — and think about taking a little time out from social media. (Do you really need to know what your ex is doing for the Christmas holidays?) From Sunday until December 22, Mercury spins retrograde through your communal 11th house and puts all your alliances under the microscope. When you take off the rose-tinted glasses, who are the people who really have your back? This three-week reflection period helps you weed out those faux friends who drain your energy. In the process, you'll open up space for a new squad. Since retrogrades point us toward the past, you could also enjoy some happy reunions with friends from back in the day. On Sunday, the full moon in Gemini gets your heart going pitter-patter. Someone in the pack may be more than just a friend: Don't ignore any warm-fuzzy feelings. If it's not true romance, this could be the spark of a creative collab. Coupled Aquarians could have an exciting announcement to share within two weeks of the full moon.

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Pisces
February 19 to March 20

Real talk, Pisces: How would you rate your job satisfaction, on a scale of one to ten? As ambitious Saturn connects to strategic Mercury in your career zone this Tuesday, you may see the need for some minor tweaks — or major changes! Do your days fly by in an energising buzz — or are you constantly stressed or bored as you count down the hours to the weekend? If you're in the latter category, it might be time to start circulating your CV and chatting up contacts at Christmas parties. But don't give up too quickly. This might be an opportunity to learn how to delegate or become better organised.

From Sunday until December 22, communication planet Mercury slips into a signal-scrambling retrograde through your career zone. Choose your battles, because you could butt heads with an authority figure or clash with a colleague. Streamline some end-of-year goals. What absolutely must be done before 2018 and what can wait until after the New Year? If you're stuck on a career plateau, ask a colleague you admire for a little mentorship chat or do a couple sessions with a career coach. And on your lunch breaks, check out books and webinars that bring strategies for success. Sunday's full moon in your home and family zone helps you get real with a relative before you get together for the holidays. Share what's in your heart, but if that's still unclear, sit down with a wise friend beforehand who can help you figure out how to express yourself lovingly.

Illustrated by Alia Penner. Photographed by Jason Rodgers.

Aries
March 21 to April 19

You have a point to make, Aries, but have you thought through your argument from every angle? On Tuesday, a powerful alignment of communicative Mercury and masterful Saturn will help you win over hearts and minds... if you have your facts and figures straight. Make your case airtight with supporting stats and studies. People will be eager to debate — and you'll be ready to show them the light. But know your audience, Ram: You may need to tone down some of your bluster. What seems like a spirited discussion to you could land as combative to a more sensitive soul.

On Sunday, Mercury — planet of communication and technology — flips retrograde in Sagittarius and your nomadic ninth house until December 22. To avoid unnecessary stress, double-check your receipts, leave for appointments (and airports) early, and take out travel insurance on any holiday getaways. This is an auspicious time to re-visit old creative projects. What have you cast aside that might be a forgotten treasure, but just needs a little dusting off and fixing up? If you're looking for extra help, Sunday's full moon in Gemini might reveal the perfect partner in crime. Bonus: Looking for a plus-one? They're probably standing in the most obvious place, like right in front of you.

Illustrated by Alia Penner. Photographed by Jason Rodgers.

Taurus
April 20 to May 20

Where is "this" all heading, Taurus? On Tuesday, communicator Mercury connects with reflective Saturn in your intimate eighth house and puts your relationships under the microscope. Is your booty call actually looking to have it all? Or maybe an intended short-term fling is really more than just a basic crush. The only way to know is to talk it out. Drum up the courage and you could end up with a long-term love match — or a pass to move on to someone who will give as good as they get. For attached Bulls, serious talks are in the stars: Whether for romance or finance, follow the urge to merge.

On Sunday, it's time to do some emotional housekeeping as messenger Mercury turns retrograde in your intimate eighth house until December 22. Things in your outer world may slow down — or even seem to backslide — but don't get frustrated. This is an opportunity to process some of those intense emotions that have been building up inside. Grab your diary and stay up late talking to wise friends. Once you know where you stand, you can air out those feelings like so much stale dust! Money might be stressing you out, but Sunday's full moon in your finance house boosts your confidence, if not your coffers. You might need to stop picking up the tab when others are slow to reach for the bill at happy hour. You're not being cheap — you're keeping things fair and square. Get ready to represent on the job! News about a Christmas bonus or a promotion could arrive within two weeks of Sunday's full moon.

Illustrated by Alia Penner. Photographed by Jason Rodgers.

Gemini
May 21 to June 20

Is it gonna be forever? On Tuesday, expressive Mercury and serious Saturn meet in your partnership house. Concerns could start churning about where a partnership is headed — with a love interest, bandmate, or business connection. Refocus! This doesn't have to go down in flames just because you've hit a point of conflict. Instead of fixating on where things are lacking, think about creative ways to co-create and give each other some room to breathe. Remember that you don't have to be joined at the hip to be a powerful pair.

Do try to get matters of the heart resolved before Sunday! That's when your ruler, communication planet Mercury, turns retrograde in your partnership house for three weeks. For the coming few weeks, certain interactions could feel like an endless game of telephone. Unless you need to express something now, hold off until later in the month. You'll thank yourself after the 22nd, when you've spared yourself the crossed wires and petty squabbles. And don't be surprised if an old flame reappears, since retrogrades rule the past. Go in with eyes wide open — or block that number if all you can see is more trouble. On Sunday, one is your magic number as the annual full moon in Gemini pushes you into the spotlight. Unleash a bit of shameless self-promotion. The brighter you let yourself shine, the easier it will be for the world to see you — and that could open some amazing doors over the coming two weeks!

Illustrated by Alia Penner. Photographed by Jason Rodgers.

Cancer
June 21 to July 22

Load up on fluids and get plenty of rest. There's no better prescription than preventative medicine, Cancer — a reminder you'll get this Tuesday as mindful Mercury and cautious Saturn connect in your sixth house of self-care. And don't be laissez-faire about that muscle you pulled at the gym or a lingering sniffle. Schedule a massage or pop into the urgent care clinic to get it handled. Exercise is another great immunity booster. We know you're racing against the clock to wrap up 2017 duties, but trust us — those workouts will bring oxygen to your brain, making your thinking clearer and your days more productive.

Don't get caught spinning your wheels after Saturday when communicator Mercury turns retrograde in your work and wellness house until December 22. Mercury's backslide is yet another signal to slow down and make healthy living a top priority. You can forget where your limits lie, Cancer, but this forced retreat may be just what the doctor ordered to give you the R+R you need (but seldom take). Stay super organised on the job, because Mercury's backspin can put the devil in the details. Deploy some lifehacks, but remember: Not every task can run on auto-pilot. Triple check your work and touch base with teammates to make sure you're on top of all your deliverables. Sunday's full moon in Gemini helps you open up more space in your schedule. What can you let go of before 2017 is through? Remove at least one stressful, and ultimately unnecessary, obligation from your calendar and reclaim your time.

Illustrated by Alia Penner. Photographed by Jason Rodgers.

Leo
July 23 to August 22

Have you raised the bar a little too high there, Leo? Nothing wrong with being ambitious as you tear through those end-of-year goals. But this week's planets remind you that, despite your fierce lion's roar, you're still human. If you've been burning the candle at both ends, you could hit the exhaustion point. Assess your commitments: What can you scale back on or save for 2018? Go let your hair down with friends and have a cup of cheer. If you don't spend some time refuelling, you're going to need a major rest instead of a minor pit stop.

On Sunday, communication planet Mercury turns retrograde in Sagittarius and your fifth house of love and self-expression. You're a born romantic, but this forced reflection could provide you with answers from your past. What do you need to deal with before you can move on or really open your heart? You might need to make a "no contact" rule with an ex instead of trying to be friends and getting your feelings hurt (over and over again). Of course, with Mercury in reverse, an old flame could pop up under the mistletoe. Think very carefully before offering a second chance. In a relationship? Your romantic ride could hit a speed bump — which would indicate things you've swept under the carpet need to be dealt with, like, now. Don't resist: You could wind up in a much stronger place by the 22nd, when the retrograde ends. But take a breather from heavy interactions on Sunday and go where the people are! The full moon in Gemini and your free-spirited 11th house sets the stage for a memorable group hang with friends who love it when you do you.

Illustrated by Alia Penner. Photographed by Jason Rodgers.

Virgo
August 23 to September 22

Can't fight those feels any longer? You don't have to, Virgo, so stop trying. On Tuesday, mental Mercury and serious Saturn connect in your emo fourth house. What have you been bottling up? Alas, your favourite "Slay the Day" coffee mug or positive mantra Insta-feed won't do the trick. To get closure, you have to experience the full spectrum of emotions — and that includes anger and sadness. These feelings are important messengers, revealing what you're "so over" and what you need to leave behind as 2017 winds down. Ritualise this: Set aside an evening just for writing a diary, scream into a pillow, or have a purifying long cry in the shower. The sooner you deal, the sooner you'll heal.

Family: Is it the source of your greatest comfort — or just another "f word?" You may find yourself wondering starting Sunday, as communication planet Mercury turns retrograde in your domestic fourth house until December 22. Dealings with relatives — especially female ones — could be tense, which might give you second thoughts about your Christmas plans. The silver lining? This could be a key opportunity to resolve the feud before everyone gathers in celebration. If you're racing against the clock to finish an end-of-year project, Sunday's full moon in your career zone reminds you that you're the boss. Own it! Delegate some of the duties, and if you can't afford to hire assistance, try the barter system — or call in some favours.

Illustrated by Alia Penner. Photographed by Jason Rodgers.

Libra
September 23 to October 22

Early this week, it may be wiser to listen than to speak. As sober Saturn meets up with expressive Mercury on Tuesday, your words could come out the wrong way — no matter how carefully you rehearse your speech! Plus, there's something you still need to hear, Libra. Ask questions first. And while you may, indeed, have something serious to express, think twice before you put it in writing. A face-to-face discussion, where you can make eye contact and detect actual emotions, is the only way to go this week.

Also: How many combinations of capital letters, numbers, and symbols can you remember, Libra? Change old passwords before Sunday when Mercury flips retrograde until December 22. This time, the messenger planet backspins through your communication zone, which could put your sensitive data at risk. Protect your devices with an access code, and make extra certain to sign out of email and social accounts on public computers for the rest of the month. If you're going to upgrade to the iPhone X, hit the mobile store before Sunday. On Sunday, the full moon in Gemini activates your wanderlust. Although Mercury retro isn't the optimal time to book travel, you could get plans in motion for your 2018 winter break and then buy the tix after the 22nd. (Or just book with extreme care.) Thinking about some long-lost, long-distance connections? Ping your pal in Cape Town and your amiga in Argentina. Her couch awaits...

Illustrated by Alia Penner. Photographed by Jason Rodgers.

Scorpio
October 23 to November 21

Hide your piggy bank on that high shelf, Scorpio. As impulsive Mercury and stern Saturn meet up in your money zone this Tuesday, you'll need to be more mindful with your moolah. Retail therapy can be a rewarding short-term fix — we so get it! But this cosmic combo is a reminder to save up your hard-earned cash for a more substantial purchase. Tuesday is a stellar day to make a splash on the job, even stepping into a leadership role where you see an opening. What achievements do you want to showcase? Don't be shy about tooting your own horn in the name of your Christmas bonus!

On Sunday, Mercury turns retrograde in Sagittarius, bamboozling your second house of work and finances until December 22. Things could get a little scattered as you wrap up those 2017 to-do's. Misunderstandings could crop up with coworkers, no matter how clear you think you're being. If something's important, put it in writing to keep a paper trail — and proofread a couple drafts before you press "send." And, once again, be super vigilant with spending. Make a list and check it twice before you do your Christmas shopping. One carefully curated gift can have a bigger impact than three random ones. Sunday's sultry full moon could bring an attraction that's been brewing to the boiling point. It's all or nothing here, so you'll need to decide which direction is best for you over the coming two weeks.

Illustrated by Alia Penner. Photographed by Jason Rodgers.

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How To Winter-Proof Your Hair

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With winter comes bad weather, which can affect everything from our skin to our mood. Unfortunately our hair doesn't escape the aggressors of the season, either, so we spoke to Adam Reed, cofounder of Percy & Reed, about protecting our tresses this winter.

"The main factor is temperature difference. Winter's chill and dry central heating wreak havoc on your hair and are massively dehydrating," Reed explains. "The cold can make your hair feel very brittle. Never go out in the cold with damp hair, as this is when the cuticles are open and hair tends to frizz and go static. Make sure it's 100% dry before you brace outside."

So other than smoothing hair cuticles with a good blow-dry, what else can we do to bring our hair back to life? "The most important way to weatherproof your hair is by building up moisture and using a shampoo and conditioner which protect your hair." The two key components of your daily wash should be defence against environmental damage and moisture-rebalancing. "Incorporating an oil into your haircare routine can be transformative in regenerating and restoring moisture, and doing a weekly overnight treatment will keep your hair in healthy condition, too."

So there you have it: easy steps to take this winter to protect and nourish your tresses. Click through to find the products we love for keeping frizz and dehydration at bay.

Ideal for dehydrated locks, this lightweight, leave-in balm transforms lacklustre hair. Wake up with bouncier, frizz-free, super glossy tresses.

Percy & Reed Perfectly Perfecting Wonder Overnight Recovery Treatment, £20, available at Look Fantastic

This lightweight hairdryer features a cool air control to minimise heat damage, lock in style and create a glossy shine.

Cloud Nine The Airshot Hairdryer, £99, available at Mankind

Designed for coarse hair, this formula is enriched with botanical sunflower extract to smooth and deliver an anti-frizz finish.

L'Oréal Hair Expertise SuperSleek Anti-Frizz System Smoothing & Taming Shampoo, £6.29, available at Feel Unique

Infused with a balance of amla extract and coriander oil, this conditioner provides a healthy dose of moisture and shine.

Redken Diamond Oil Glow Dry Conditioner, £16, available at Look Fantastic

This serum, featuring a combination of grapeseed, safflowers, sweet almond, macadamia, argan and coconut oils, tames frizz and protects from breakage.

Bumble and Bumble Hairdresser's Invisible Oil, £35, available at Space NK

This conditioner is ideal for protecting afro hair from winter's aggressors. Or, if you regularly colour, straighten or perm your hair, this detangling, frizz-controlling, leave-in treatment is good too.

Shea Moisture Jamaican Black Castor Oil Strengthen & Restore Leave-In Conditioner, £12.99, available at Boots

Powered by T3 Tourmaline and advanced SoftAiretechnology, this hairdryer cancels static and seals the hair cuticle, which helps hair to retain moisture and give a glossy finish.

T3 Featherweight 2 Dryer, £155, available at Boots

Sulphate-free and enriched with coconut and jojoba oils, this deeply moisturises and locks in colour pigments, to prolong your shade and increase colour vibrancy.

Pureology Precious Oil Shamp'Oil, £16.50, available at Cult Beauty

The combination of amino acids and protein-packed quadramine complex in this deep treatment will reconstruct every strand and give you healthy, shiny locks.

Joico K-Pak Deep Penetrating Reconstructor, £15.95, available at Look Fantastic

This lavender oil treatment protects your tresses from environmental damage, with vitamin E to treat the scalp and palm oil to improve hair's elasticity.

Christophe Robin Moisturising Hair Oil With Lavender, £34, available at Space NK

Designed to work on all hair types that are struggling with dullness, this treatment transforms frizz into shiny, bouncy locks with a single use.

Philip B Katira Hair Masque, £43, available at Cult Beauty

Enriched with a combination of jojoba, macadamia and avocado oils, this lightweight serum repairs smoothness and reconstructs dehydrated locks.

Aussie 3 Miracle Oil Reconstructor For Damaged Hair, £9.99, available at Boots

Hailing from Stockholm, Sachajuan has created this overnight hair treatment with a sea algae and mineral-rich formula that builds elasticity, while adding moisture and shine.

Sachajuan Overnight Hair Repair, £35, available at Cult Beauty

This smart shampoo eliminates product build-up, one of the main causes of oily roots. Leaving the hair squeaky clean but not stripped, it combats the effects of environmental grime, allowing you to wash your hair less frequently without compromising on manageability.

Living Proof No Frizz Shampoo, £10, available at Cult Beauty

This dual-purpose, coconut oil-infused product can be used as a finishing touch to tame frizz and flyaways or before shampoo for extra nourishment.

L'Oréal Elvive Extraordinary Oil Coconut Hair Oil, £9.99, available at Boots

A hydrating blend of Coconut Milk and Aloe Vera, this silcone-free mist detangles and conditions without weighing hair down.

TRESemme Botanique Hydrating Mist, £6.05, available at Boots

Fortified with red algae extract and moringa oil, this deep conditioner protects sensitised strands from root to tip, providing you with more manageable and softer locks.

Shu Uemura Art Of Hair Urban Moisture Conditioner, £32, available at Look Fantastic

With a formula rich in avocado oil, this lightweight serum absorbs fast, leaves a silky shine and smooths stressed-out strands.

Bleach London Hair Elixir, £6, available at Cult Beauty

An intense keratin treatment for dry hair, this mask will restore silkiness and control flyaways.

Toni&Guy Smooth Definition Mask, £6.49, available at Boots

Haircare giant ghd has created an innovative hairdryer that lets you style as you dry, to lift roots, deliver a more concentrated stream of air, and with a cold shot button to lock styled hair in place.

ghd Aura Professional Hair Dryer, £145, available at John Lewis

In the same way we hold our winter moisturisers near and dear, Umberto Giannini has created a vitamin B5-rich shampoo to deliver the same hydrating results to your tresses.

Umberto Giannini Smooth Wash Moisturising Shampoo, £6, available at Boots

Ideal for more porous hair textures, this strengthening shampoo helps minimise breakage and intensify shine.

OUAI Haircare Repair Shampoo, £22, available at Cult Beauty

Enriched with active ingredients such as Marula Oil, Mafura Butter and Prickly Pear Seed Oil, this deep treatment prevents breakage, improves curl definition and stimulates growth.

Boucleme Intensive Moisture Treatment, £26, available at Boucleme

Using an organic, plant-based blend formula, this deep treatment repairs chemically treated, dull hair to leave it soft and shiny.

Aveda Damage Remedy Intensive Restructuring Treatment, £29.50, available at Look Fantastic

Inspired by the strength of resilient spider silk, this conditioner utilises silk amino acids to penetrate every strand and protect hair from breakage.

Wella Professionals FUSION Conditioner, £15.40, available at Look Fantastic

Applied to dry hair, this restorative treatment deep conditions, speeds up drying times and reduces frizz and static. Through a blend of Amino Acids, Vegetable Proteins and Omega Rich Acids, it works to protect against colour fade and breakage.

Lore Originals Legend Mask, £36, available at Lore Originals

This multi-action strengthening treatment combats split ends, smoothens frizz and prevents future breakage caused by heat styling.

Rita Hazan Triple Threat Split End Remedy, £27.03, available at Look Fantastic

Using a blend of chelators and vitamin E, this hair mask prolongs colour vibrancy and prevents colour fading caused by water particles, leaving hair healthy, supple and smoother for longer.

Kérastase Reflection Masque Chromatique Fine Hair Mask, £30.20, available at Look Fantastic

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14 Ideas For An Alternative Winter Wedding

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Type "winter weddings" into Google and you'll come up with suggestions like "get your guests to roast marshmallows" and "serve hot cocoa" which, while nice, don't exactly seem like the sort of things you pictured yourself doing at your wedding.

There are plenty of other ways to celebrate without sacrificing yourself to the cold, though. If you're getting married in freezing temperatures, when there may even be snow on the ground, then click through our gallery of alternative winter wedding ideas for a little bit of inspiration.

Get a high-neck wedding dress

Winter weddings give you more room to play with the traditional wedding dress concept. Go all dramatic with floor-length red velvet, wear a suit, or even a pair of thermal pyjamas. It's your day after all.

This high-neck dress from Hermione de Paula  is a twist on the tradition without being too outlandish. Perfect for a wedding held during colder climes.

And wear a leather jacket as a cover-up

The traditional winter wedding cover-up is something faux-furry, like a stole.

Do something different and wear your trusty leather jacket instead, to add an edge to an otherwise traditional gown.

Purple candles

Enough with the white candles. Who wrote the law that said wedding candles had to be white? These purple ones make for a marvellously gothic table setting.

Decorate with a woollen pom-pom garland

Big in fashion last year, big for weddings this year? You can actually make pom-pom garlands at home using colourful wool and this pom-pom maker.

Or make a garland out of fir trees

Just because it's cold, doesn't mean you can't get some of this year's biggest wedding trend: greenery. Just make sure you go for evergreens – like branches from fir trees.

Or take inspo from this weird-but-cool dead branch garland

There's beauty to be found in winter nature too – just look at this gorgeous use of a dead tree branch.

For food, do a Sunday roast

A roast is cheap, good for feeding many people, and isn't likely to annoy your nan who still thinks spaghetti is a "bit exotic". Plus, roasts, which have got kind of a bad name over the past few years for being super carby and meaty, are actually having a comeback in food fashion. Take advantage.

Or better yet, serve a stew

Even cheaper than a roast, and easier to make and transport. Winter is almost certainly the one time of year when a stew is wedding-appropriate.

While you're there, have crackers

Because they'll go on offer right after Christmas and also, why not?

Get. A. Hood

There are sadly not many instances in which a grown woman can wear a hooded cape and swan around like Sansa Stark meets the Scottish Widow but your winter wedding day is one of them. Get cape, wear cape, fly. Like the fantastical ice queen you are.

Serve mulled wine post-ceremony

Cheaper than prosecco, less likely to leave you legless by mid-afternoon. Get someone to make it though, rather than being lazy with the store-bought stuff. It makes such a difference.

Serve your prosecco with winter berries

If you must have prosecco, do the adding strawberries thing but with winter fruits. Try berries like blackberries, rowan berries and sloe berries.

Give blankets as favours

Unless it is unseasonably warm, your guests will likely be cold. Even an indoor wedding is bound to come with some sort of draughtiness if you use a big enough space.

Leaving blankets on each chair as a favour, then, could be a nice idea to keep your guests sat in their seats and wearing their posh clothes – rather than pulling on a hoodie.

Stock up on the sparklers

Bonfire night has been and gone but that hopefully means you'll get a good deal on sparklers for each and every one of your guests. Usher them outside into the snow, just for five minutes, and have a massive sparkler fest, before heading back inside to top up on mulled wine.

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New Laws Could Be Introduced To Protect Women Outside Abortion Clinics

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New laws to protect women from being harassed and intimidated outside abortion clinics will be considered, the Home Office has said.

Home Secretary Amber Rudd today ordered an "in-depth assessment" of gatherings outside abortion clinics following concerns over the tactics used by some pro-life protestors.

Last month Rupa Huq, the Labour MP for Ealing, urged the government to introduce legislation which would make the areas outside abortion clinics "safe spaces" where protestors couldn't enter.

Huq told The Independent at the time: "For years and years the passage of women to the Marie Stopes clinic in Mattock Lane, Ealing within my constituency has been blocked by protestors brandishing rosary beads and lining the pavement with foetus dolls and gruesome ghoulish images to deter vulnerable women... and clinic staff trying to enter their workplace, leaving me and other local residents silently fuming."

The Ealing-based organisation Sister Supporter has also been set up to lobby for "harassment-free abortion access nationally."

The Home Office said today that its assessment of the situation will gather evidence from the police, healthcare providers and local authorities before determining whether enhanced or new police powers are needed to tackle the problem.

The way other countries such as the US, France and Australia tackle similar protests outside abortion clinics will also be taken into consideration.

Amber Rudd said today: "While everyone has a right to peaceful protest, it is completely unacceptable that anyone should feel harassed or intimidated simply for exercising their legal right to healthcare advice and treatment. The decision to have an abortion is already an incredibly personal one, without women being further pressured by aggressive protesters."

She added: "Let me be clear, this review is about ensuring the police, healthcare providers and local authorities have the right powers to protect women making these tough decisions. But this isn’t to kick the issue into the long grass. The review will collect the detailed evidence and firm recommendations that allow us to take the right action to tackle this problem."

Responding to today's announcement, Rupa Huq said she hopes for "action now rather than just warm words."

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Tens Of Thousands Stranded As Bali Volcano Closes Airport

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Eruptions on Bali's Mount Agung began on Saturday, marking the first eruption since 1963. Indonesian authorities have now raised the alert to the highest level on Monday local time, stranding tens of thousands of travellers as ash clouds forced the closure of the tourist island's international airport.

Mount Agung has been hurling clouds of white and dark grey ash about 3,000 meters (9,800 feet) into the atmosphere since the weekend. Video released by the national disaster agency showed a mudflow of volcanic debris and water known as a lahar moving down the volcano's slopes.

Bali's airport was closed early Monday after tests indicated ash had reached its airspace and authorities raised the volcano's alert to the highest danger level.

Flight information boards showed rows of cancelations as tourists arrived at the busy airport expecting to catch flights home.

Airport spokesman Air Ahsanurrohim said 445 flights were canceled, stranding about 59,000 travellers. The closure is in effect until Tuesday morning though officials said the situation will be reviewed every six hours.

Bali is Indonesia's top tourist destination, with its gentle Hindu culture, surf beaches, and lush green interior attracting about five million visitors a year.

Geological agency head, Kasbani, who goes by one name, said the alert level was raised because the volcano has shifted from steam-based eruptions to magmatic eruptions. However he said he's still not expecting a major eruption.

"We don't expect a big eruption but we have to stay alert and anticipate," he said on Indonesian TV.

The volcano's last major eruption in 1963 killed about 1,100 people.

The exclusion zone around the crater was widened to 10 kilometres (six miles). Previously it ranged between 6 and 7.5 kilometres.

Ash up to half a centimetre (less than half an inch) thick has settled on villages around the volcano and soldiers and police distributed masks on the weekend.

In Karangasem district that surrounds the volcano, tourists stopped to watch the towering plumes of ash as children made their made to school.

Indonesia sits on the "Pacific Ring of Fire" and has more than 120 active volcanoes.

Mount Agung's alert status was raised to the highest level in September following a dramatic increase in tremors from the volcano, which doubled the exclusion zone around the crater and prompted more than 140,000 people to leave the area. The alert was lowered on October 29 after a decrease in activity but about 25,000 people remained in evacuation centres.

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